Yeah…so…this is the famous perpetual question we always get, “Are you gonna have more???” to which I usually reply, “More what? More coffee? More wine? More what???!!!” (by the way, in case you are wondering, the answer to both of those first two questions is always YES) After the joking is over the other party usually says,”No, seriously, are you going to have more children?” And what I like to respond with (and sometimes I do) is, “I dunno, ARE YOU?” Afterall why is it okay for them to ask me that question but not okay for me to ask them the same one, right? I mean, it would be perfectly natural in today’s world to have a million pets but the moment you have more than two children it’s as if you have entered into another level of crazy. And while it is true that those levels of cray cray do exist to me it’s just not right to compare the two.
For those of you that do not know me, before I am a wife or a Mom I am a Catholic and I try (key word being try) to be a devout Catholic. Well, what the heck does that mean, JoAnne? Well, if we are stepping outside of what some people refer to as the Cafeteria Catholic (meaning, I’ll take this part of my religion but I’ll leave this one) that means that regarding children we do not believe in birth control and we are open to life. But even if I were not Catholic I would not take birth control just because I do not take an advil unless I really really need one. It’s just the way I have always been. I think the side effects from birth control alone are scary enough. The same with a surgery – I would never have a surgery unless it was absolutely necessary.
All of this said, does this mean we are rabbits as yes, unfortunately, people have called us? No, we are not. If you took sex ed – at least in the 80’s- you would remember them telling you, “it only takes one time!” LOL. Does this mean we should or will have a million children? No, not necessarily but we could. Does this mean we have never been taught natural family planning? No, we have. In fact, I am a firm believer of it, especially of The Creighton Model even though, um, I myself may not have mastered it quiet yet.
In theory a woman should give her body a year to rest in between pregnancies. The most my body has ever had has been around seven months. After the first child, each time I have gone for my first prenatal visit I get giggles and “you’re gunna need a reality show for all these kids!” comments from the Doctors and the staff. At the end of the day all they really want is my updated Christmas card with the latest addition! All kidding aside, I have yet been told by my OBGYNs (and this is from about 10 of them, male and femal alike and all from different religions) to not get pregnant again. I have been blessed with nearly perfect pregancies and deliveries and besides being fat I am in pretty good shape overall thank God!
So, do we know what it takes to make a baby? Clearly. Do we know how to not make a baby? Kinda. So what are we gunna do about it, “all ‘dem kids”? Nutin. We believe that if God wants us to have more children we will and if He does not want us to we won’t. It’s as simple as that. So, fo sho if He wants it they’ll be mo, and mo, and mo! LOL
Am I the perfect Mom? No. Is he the perfect Dad? YES. So it works. We balance each other out. And though we have crazy moments and our bad days, all of the good, the JOY, the LOVE, the FUN! in our home outweighs the bad and we do not regret any of our blessings. God has given us the children and He too has given us the grace and help we need to provide for those children in the best way we can.
So, with all of that said, to answer the question, we’re just gunna keep on keepin on and if we outdo The Duggars then GREAT and if we don’t then GREAT.